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A few years ago, I became fast friends with Martina at My Mid-Century Modern Life after she contacted me through our blog about becoming foster parents. She asked me to write a guest post over there. I decided to write about older child adoption in pop culture.
One of the strangest comments we ever received when we were getting ready to become foster parents was a recommendation by someone to watch the movie, Orphan. Yes, the horror movie about a nine-year old adoptee who terrorizes her new parents. The person thought it would serve as a cautionary tale for us. We never got around to watching it.
Click here to read the rest. And check out Martina’s awesome blog (and see their new and amazing house!)
I’m trying to be better about writing things down (thus, three blog posts recently after a year of very few).
I’m getting better about adding the kid’s quotes to their blog. I think the two most recent ones pretty much sum up the boys’ personalities.
Yesterday, we had the pleasure of spending a day off as a family. I wanted to take the kids to The Henry Ford Museum for Martin Luther King Jr. Day. The museum is the home of the Rosa Parks bus and a great exhibit on freedom and liberty. And, thanks to Target, admission was free!
I surprised myself a bit by how emotional I got walking through the Civil Rights exhibit. We were explaining some things to the boys as we walked by and I was impressed by how much they already knew from school. The exhibit has two drinking fountains and my six-year old read the word “colored” off of one of them. We explained how people had to drink from different drinking fountains depending on their skin color. It struck me that sixty-years ago, my daughter would have lived a much more privileged life than my sons. I was humbled by the fact that if not for the efforts of MLK Jr. and many others, we may not have the family we have today. Our family lives in peace today because of people who were a voice for justice.
I have many hopes for my children. I want them to love Jesus and know that God loves them. I want them to put others before themselves. I so hope our children will grow up to be a voice against injustice. I hope that when they see the oppressed and weary around them, they will speak up. I hope we are setting that example for them in the way that we live. I came away from MLK Jr. Day with a deeper desire to speak up because sixty years ago someone did that on our boys’ behalf and I’m forever grateful.
Let’s hear it for random blogging.
The Braverman’s have really been through a lot this season, amiright?
We watched Tuesday’s nights episode a day late and I’m sad to see Mark Cyr seems to be back in the picture. I really have a hard time with this guy. Maybe it is the mustache-like thing on his face. Oh well, I have a feeling those two are destined to be together.
I’m mostly invested in the story-line with Julia, Joel, Victor and Sydney this season. I think Crosby may have saved the day in this past episode. Each week, I find myself wanting to recommend so many books and methods and therapies to this family. I think Julia’s had unrealistic expectations for Victor. It is hurtful when our kids don’t fall in love with us immediately (in foster care/adoption) and it is hard when the feelings we expect to have ourselves don’t show up the way we thought they would. I empathize with her so much. I want to grab coffee and tell her, “It will get better. Just hang in there!” I’ve long-learned that it is wrong to expect realistic situations out of TV shows but I think they have done a pretty good job with this issue.
I don’t really know what to say about Drew & Amy except that it made me very sad. I was sad that Drew didn’t really get a choice. I was sad that Amy felt she had no other option. I was sad that their parents were so unaware of what was happening with their kids.
This season is ending up being a very short one and I think that is doing a lot of disservice to Kristina’s story-line. I don’t think they are doing justice to the reality of cancer.
Final quick thoughts…
- Loved the hilarious dialogue about puberty with Zeke, Camille, Max and Kristina a few weeks ago
- Loving Amber’s hair recently (and I love her and Ryan together – hope that all resolves)
- Will we ever see Haddie again?
Don’t read yet if you haven’t seen Parenthood from this past Tuesday. Know what I loved about this past week’s episode? No Mark Cyr.
But, seriously though, the plot line I loved more than anything this week was Jasmine and Crosby explaining the racism and the N-word to Jabar.
Jabar reminds me so much of our boys. I know a day will come when we have to explain this to our kids. I related so much with Crosby as he sat there as an “outsider” in a way, not knowing what is like to have someone think less of you because of the color of your skin. I have had the same heart-breaking feeling imaging that happening to our kids some day. I thought Jasmine’s message was so honest and hopeful. Can I just play that scene someday for our kids? (Also, who knew the guy from Punk’d would turn out to be a pretty decent actor?)
I also think the writers are doing a great job with the struggle of adopting an older child. It is a two-steps forward, one-step back process and they are showing that well. Joel continues to be perfect. (But did anyone else wonder where Sydney was this past episode?)
I don’t have a lot to say about Adam and Kristina’s plot line. I don’t really understand why they have not told people yet (although, it looks like that is what next week’s episode is about).
A few random thoughts…
- I still like Hank a lot. And I still think Sarah needs to be by herself for a while (but that doesn’t make for an interesting story, I guess).
- What happened to Bob Little? Did he lose the election? I liked him and Amber together.
DIB is in first grade this year. Starting back to school was tough for him. His teacher reports that he is doing well and we know he has several friends in class. But he would gladly stay home each day and play. He loves Star Wars (although he has never seen any of the movies). And he loves television (a kid after my own heart). However, the new school year comes with a new rule – no television from Sunday evening until Friday afternoon. They boys do not get home from school until 4:00 pm and they still have a 7:30 pm bedtime (they need their 12 hours). There is just too little time in the afternoons after school to spend it watching TV. DIB plans to do running club again and might just join Cub Scouts. Why does he want to do Cub Scouts? He reports, “Because you get to shoot a bow and arrow, like in Brave.”
AIB is in kindergarten and is loving it. This kid loves assignments and projects. He is making new friends at school quickly and, I think, really likes the routine of everything. At home, he likes to have a job (like vacuuming or cleaning a window). He is also quite funny and is currently without two front teeth, making his cuteness factor skyrocket. His current goals are to work on being polite to adults (he gets a bit shy) and to work on trying new foods (he is pretty anti-vegetable).
MNB is nine months old and rocking 12-18 month size clothing. People constantly comment on her cheeks. She just started waving this week. She is not crawling but scoots around quite well in the sitting position. He brothers often say, “How did she get over there?!?” She is sweet and a pretty easy going baby. She is just started to like food (not baby food but anything she can feed herself). She is pretty social. In the past few weeks, she has started putting herself to sleep better for naps and at night. With the exception of a few nights, she has been a pretty great sleeper and for that we are very thankful.